What is why is it so awkward between me and him?

It's impossible to pinpoint the exact reasons for awkwardness without knowing the specific context of your relationship with "him." However, here are some common underlying causes that could contribute to an awkward dynamic, with links to further information:

• Lack of Common Ground: A fundamental disconnect in interests, values, or perspectives can lead to difficulties in finding things to talk about and creating meaningful connections. This results in awkward silences and stilted conversations. More information about this can be found at lack of common ground.

• Uncertainty About the Relationship: When the nature of the relationship is unclear (e.g., are you friends? Is there romantic interest? Is it purely professional?), it can create anxiety and awkwardness. This ambiguity leads to hesitation and overthinking of interactions. More information about this can be found at uncertainty about relationship.

• Communication Styles: Differences in communication styles, such as introversion vs. extroversion, directness vs. indirectness, or differing senses of humor, can lead to misunderstandings and awkward interactions. Misinterpretations of cues can further exacerbate the problem. More information about this can be found at communication styles.

• Power Dynamics: Unequal power dynamics, whether in a professional or personal setting, can create discomfort and awkwardness. One person might feel intimidated or deferential, leading to unnatural interactions. More information about this can be found at power dynamics.

• Past Experiences: Previous negative interactions, disagreements, or unresolved conflicts can linger and create tension in subsequent interactions. The memory of these experiences can make both parties feel uneasy. More information about this can be found at past experiences.

• Self-Consciousness/Anxiety: One or both of you might be feeling self-conscious or anxious about the interaction. This can manifest as fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, or struggling to find the right words, which can contribute to the awkwardness. More information about this can be found at self-consciousness.

• Unresolved Feelings: Unacknowledged or unexpressed feelings, especially romantic feelings, can create significant awkwardness. The tension of holding back emotions can make interactions feel strained. More information about this can be found at unresolved feelings.

Consider which of these factors (or a combination of them) might be at play in your situation to better understand the source of the awkwardness.